The myth of the second chance

The self-help industry suggests all mistakes in life are retrievable. Middle age teaches us otherwise

A person’s life at 40 isn’t the sum of most decisions. It is skewed by a disproportionately important few, says the writer. PHOTO ILLUSTRATION: UNSPLASH
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In the novels of Ian McEwan, a pattern recurs. The main character makes a mistake – just one – which then hangs over them forever. A girl misidentifies a rapist, and in doing so shatters three lives, including her own (Atonement). A man exchanges a lingering glance with another, who becomes a tenacious stalker (Enduring Love). A just-married couple fail to have sex, or rather have it badly, and aren’t themselves again, either as individuals or as a pair (On Chesil Beach). Often, the mistake reverberates over much of the 20th century.

This plot trick is said to be unbecoming of a serious artist. McEwan is accused of an obsession with incident that isn’t true to the gradualism and untidiness of real life. Whereas Marcel Proust luxuriates in the slow accretion of human experience, McEwan homes in on the singular event. It is too neat. It is written to be filmed.

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