Learning to not go it alone: Why is it so hard to ask for help?

There are costs to this idea that dependence on others is a sign of weakness

The modern definition of success involves people going it alone, rather than depending on others for help. But is this really the sort of society we want? PHOTO: ST FILE
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I lost sight of my five-year-old at a playground recently – he runs around a lot and is difficult to track. When I found him, he was eating grapes.

These were not his grapes. I was in possession of his snack. And since this playground was in Paya Lebar and not, say Burgundy, these were also not wild grapes. These grapes were in a Tupperware being held by another boy’s grandfather.

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